The period following the decision to divorce is difficult for both parties.
Divorce cases, particularly involving children, are stereotyped as being unfair towards men. This was rightfully assumed in the past, whereby the Courts would often approach divorce from a female perspective. However, divorce proceedings are much more balanced today, due to sound legal advice and various organisations which look to support the wellbeing of men.
One aspect of family law most parents are concerned with is custody. There is a common belief that the Court is more partial to women when it comes to child custody arrangements. If this is one of your concerns, you should begin documenting your interactions with your child, for example, taking them to extracurricular activities, attending parent-teacher conferences, helping them with homework. This will be proof of your active engagement in your child’s life.
Another thing you should document are the activities in joint bank accounts, as well as getting your financial paperwork in order. If possible, close the joint account. This ensures your money is not being used by your ex-spouse.
It is understandable you may be harbouring some anger and hostility towards your ex-spouse, however it is important to maintain a civil relationship with them, especially if there are children involved.
The separation and divorce process is a very emotional time. Along with feelings of anger and resentment, you may feel rejected, lonely and depressed. While you may not feel comfortable expressing these emotions, it is important to manage them as best as you can to maintain your mental health and wellbeing. There are multiple resources and services for men that you may consider reaching out to.
Dads in Distress(link is external) is an organisation that looks to providing support for men, and helping them improve their family safety and wellbeing, particularly during or after the separation process.
MensLine(link is external) is a professional telephone and online support service for Australian men. It looks to ensure men are taking care of their emotional wellbeing during difficult times, particularly in cases of divorce or separation.
Relationships Australia(link is external) assists families in creating harmonious and positive relationships. They specialise in crisis support, as well as family dispute resolution.
At Matthews Folbigg, we understand how daunting it can be to seek legal advice for a family issue or domestic issue. We are always able to advise you on any family law issue with professionalism and compassion.
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